Do You Know When To Say No?

Mon, Jul 5, 2010

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Imagine this… you have just signed up for a new online marketing course that you are completely confident will get you closer to achieving your business goals. The live weekly trainings will be on Monday nights and you CAN’T WAIT. You are so excited!

This is the knowledge you have been praying will show up! And then your phone rings…

(Insert the situation that best fits you)

The pastor from your church calls explaining that the person who was supposed to run the Monday night prayer groups just got sick and they have NO ONE else to do it. Could you please fill in for the next 8 weeks? (Keep in mind you just finished organizing a fundraiser for the church, and you already sit on a few committees)

Your son’s baseball coach calls begging you to run the concession stand this year at the baseball field (all games are on Monday nights).

Your best friend calls to ask if you want to get together to watch Monday Night Football after work this coming week. And then proceeds to ask if you want to make it a weekly ritual.

Do any of these situations sound familiar? If not, can you think of at least a few situations in which friends, family, and co-workers demand your time? I’ll bet you can think of plenty.

Having your time stretched too thin is a dangerous situation. It can lead to feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and even annoyed with those you love. When it comes to achieving your dreams and goals, there will come a time when you have to say NO.

You must understand that is it OK to say no, and that people will need to get used to your new time commitment.

Check out the video that I have put together for you today, and learn when and how to say NO.

So what do you think? I would love to hear your thoughts about time commitment. What do you feel pulls you away from achieving your dreams the most? How do you overcome these commitments or rearrange them to have the time necessary to work on your goals?

And most importantly… how would you react to the imaginary situation I discussed above? Would you crumble and commit to the pastor, the coach, or your friend because you felt bad?

Please understand that I am not telling you not to be involved in your community or spend time with your loved ones. Those are both extremely important. What is also important, is that you not overwhelm yourself with too many of those commitments and never get to achieve your dreams.

So again, I look forward to reading your comments below, and if you enjoyed this message please share it with your friends on Facebook and Twitter.

To your dream life,

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34 Responses to “Do You Know When To Say No?”

Peter Fuller MBA Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 5:44 pm

I can never say no to a beautiful women

But to everyone else no problem.

For me it comes down to scheduling and prioritizing. I also like to make sure everyone knows what I am doing and why.

So in the example above I would just tell everyone I have a Monday night commitment that is important for my business. If they were interested I would even tell them why I am doing it.
Peter Fuller MBA´s last blog ..Brand yourself online with your own “Nerve” Center

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:05 am

@Peter, glad that isn’t a challenge for you. I think it most comes into play when you are just beginning to establish your home business… then people start to get used to your schedule. Thanks for your input!

Steve Nicholas Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 6:57 pm

I know that, in my experience, I can have difficulty saying no. Sadly, there are times when I can only say it when there is literally no time for me to do anything else. (I think that part of it is liking being the “go-to guy” sometimes.) This is why I have a personal rule that I require 24 hours notification for something unless it really, truly is an emergency.
Steve Nicholas´s last blog ..Investing Like Warren Buffett

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:06 am

@Steve, that is actually a fantastic rule to have. Jack Canfield suggests to make a list of things you “won’t do” in his book The Success Principles… things like you mentioned there, not changing your schedule less that 24 hours in advance.

I appreciate you stopping by!

Wendy Hewlett Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 7:52 pm

The ‘Success Mindset’ is short-term pain for long-term gain. It may be hard to bow out of events that you would rather be attending, but in the long run you will have the time to do the things that you love. Your family, friends and community will understand if you are not always available if you have explained to them why you are not available.

I am learning that you also need to learn to so NO to things within your business. For instance, if you have started a training series, say NO to any other training until you complete the one you have started. You can get caught up on trying to learn several different aspects of the business (like attraction marketing, social media, PPC or whatever) at the same time. Stick to one thing at a time … you will get there.

Great advice as usual Amanda!!

Wendy Hewlett
Wendy Hewlett´s last blog ..Damaging Misconceptions in Network Marketing

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:16 am

@Wendy, great advice from yourself as well! When people can’t say no, they often get themselves into situations where they feel overwhelmed. Your right, this can happen in your personal life but also in your business very easily.

I agree 100% and I always tell my students to focus on one thing at a time in their business.

Thanks for sharing!

Amanda Lee Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 10:50 pm

Thanks Amanda. Always a good thing to be reminded of no matter how many times we hear it. My biggest difficulty is saying no to my two young children wanting my time. The main thing here is that being and feeling like a good mother is one of my main passions and spending time with them as they grow is so important to ME as well as them. So often it is ME not wanting to say no to them – not just for their sakes but also MINE!

Of course it is easier to say no to friends and adult family for dinner or golf etc than it is to say no to a child wanting and actually needing our attention.

It is always a juggle as a Mother but it is good to be reminded that martyrdom is not necessary ……..balance, balance, balance………

cheers, Amanda Lee
Amanda Lee´s last blog ..Law of Attraction- Use it Wisely- Not Selfishly

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 2:50 pm

@Amanda, balance is right! You got it girl!

Jason Linsey Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 9:59 am

Great article & video. This is something I’ve struggled with for many years. It even got me into a lot of trouble @ one place I used to work at, because I couldn’t say, “No” when people asked me to do stuff & consequently my in-tray just piled up so high, I did not have the time to get stuff done. It was a nightmare!

Anyways, I think the difficulty with saying no can sometimes be because we don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings, upset them or end up on the wrong end of their displeasure. Or maybe it’s because we don’t want the other person to think wrong of us. Or perhaps we’re scared that it’ll just end up in an argument if we say, “No” and it’s just easier to say “Yes” or “OK”.

I analysed my fear of the word “No” a short while ago & I’d felt all of those things at different times. After giving it a lot of thought & contemplation I realised that the long term pain to oneself by not saying “No” is a lot greater than the short term “quiet & easy” life that one may think one might get by not saying “No”.

And, like you said Amanda, we don’t have to be rude to say “No” – it’s like my Mom always said when I was a kid, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it that counts.”

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 2:53 pm

@Jason, great points you bring up! I agree when you say the long-term pain caused by not saying “no” is much greater than the short term discomfort.

As Wendy said above, it’s short-term pain for long-term gain.

I appreciate your input!

Rebecca Johnson Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 1:22 pm

Amanda,
Thanks for the reinforcement. Sometimes it feels so selfish and out of balance for me, but I also know that when you are starting your own business it takes time to lay the foundation and build the momentum. I appreciate the validation that it’s ok to say NO! We can trust our intuition to make these decisions about when to say yes and know– it knows what to do!
Rebecca Johnson´s last blog ..You Can Make Cool Videos Like This One To Share Your Message In A Memorable Way

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 2:57 pm

@Rebecca, I know it does feel selfish sometimes but also necessary. Trusting our intuition is so critical to living a fulfilling lifestyle. I appreciate your input!

Chris Bernardo Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 1:36 pm

Amanda,

Nice job on the post and video, i know that setting your priorities and planning out day and what you need to do and set that time, I do have to say no from time to time from different friends and networkers that want to do things ranging from Mixers, socializing, conference calls, etc… There is a time for social, but also things that you need to have to get done to grow your business and keep on track…
Chris Bernardo´s last blog ..Does it Stop Marketing at the Beach

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 4:00 pm

@Chris, absolutely! A balance of socializing and moving your business forward are key!

Cheryl Ingebrigtsen Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 3:02 pm

Hey Amanda,
Great message and reminder that its not only ok to say no but also really important. I often burn the candle at both ends and then pay for it later when I feel super tired. Its true though that people will adjust to your new schedule and if they don’t its not about trying to fix it to suit them.
Thanks for sharing
Cheryl Ingebrigtsen´s last blog ..Simple Practical FaceBook Tips

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 4:04 pm

@Cheryl, I’ve been there! Working and keeping commitments straight through til I was exhausted! It’s great to be able to turn down a commitment on occasion for your own mental health!

Spunky Jones Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 5:12 pm

I use to have a problem saying no to people. However, through the years, I have learned to reprogram myself to say no when needed.

That is probably why I am not that fond of being a mentor at times. There are just too many requests made on most mentors because people don’t want to do the work themselves. Having a mentor is one thing, but expecting them to be a nurse maid is another thing.
Spunky Jones´s last blog ..Bloggers- take responsibility for your actions-

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:14 pm

@Spunky, I think mentoring can be done right when you set that expectation from the get go. If you point people in the right direction but don’t “do it for them” it can be done without too much stress on the mentor. Thanks for your input!

Jennifer May Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 5:45 pm

Hi Amanda! This was truly one of the hardest obstacles in my life to overcome. It always has been. My family has always been very demanding of me and it is something that I cannot seem to say no to in most cases. Mainly because I have always done whatever I needed to do to get where I want and need to be (they know this and took advantage of it more than they should). I simply made it so much easier for them to take care of them every time they needed me to because I was always the “Strong One”.

Until recently… About 6 months ago I made the choice to say no. I allowed myself to learn that there is a difference between being walked all over verses helping others. Because my not saying no was interfering so very much in my success, tasks and things I need to do each day to achieve my goals/dreams. I needed to take this step to be able to even get the time to work towards my dreams.

I had to work on this area of my life each day and still do. So that I do not feel guilty when I say no and that it is alright for me to say no. In all honesty I do have my times that I get that heartache that I am terrible for saying no when I am asked to do something for them. But I quickly overcome that! It is not worth beating yourself up about, it is okay to say no!

So getting to the point of my comment… I want to thank you for this reminder. What a great video and you are absolutely right! We must all feel okay with saying no. It is something that will allow more time, room and energy towards our true purpose in life! Thanks Girl!!!
Jennifer May´s last blog ..My Top 20 Reasons WHY NOT To SURRENDER To Life’s Obstacles… But OVERCOME And FACE Them

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:18 pm

@Jenn, your comments are always so heartfelt! I think people’s personalities come into play with how much this decision to “say no” effects them. I also have a difficult time saying no, whereas some people do it easily.

Just tonight, within a one hour time span, I was invited to a baseball game and to go swimming, both of which I had to turn down because of online commitments. My friends and family are starting to understand though which is nice!

I appreciate your input!!

Ryan Yokome Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 6:21 pm

Hey Amanda,

This is such a great post!! Seriously, one of the first lessons I’ve learned it to get great at using the word “no”.

Focus is so key. Awesome video and content. You’re an inspiration because you’ve been killin’ it lately!!

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:19 pm

@Ryan, thanks so much buddy! Yep, “no” is ultimately important! I appreciate you stoppin by!!

Justine Simard Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 6:28 pm

Hi Amanda,

Thanks so much for a great video and message. I can completely relate! With a young family and a home business to juggle, I have had to learn to say no, but also have had to learn to say YES to MYSELF! This is a positive way to see every situation where I have to say no to someone, because in most instance, it is because I must say yes to myself (and can definitely help to eradicate the guilt sometimes felt after saying no to others).

I must say though, I absolutely do love saying yes to OTHERS. And I do whenever I can. While having a strong focus on achieving my goals and dream, and cultivating my mindset for personal and professional success, saying no sometimes becomes a necessity. And in the process, saying yes, whenever possible, can certainly bring massive rewards as well.

Thanks for your inspiration!

Justine
Justine Simard´s last blog ..Are You Like Me Attraction Marketing and Filtering Prospects

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:21 pm

@Justine, I hear you! Saying YES to yourself is something many of us need to do more (and guilt-free)! Thanks for commenting on my blog and I hope to see you back more often!

Karen Marrow Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 6:42 pm

Amanda,

That is one of my favorite books of all time too! You are right, you do have to say no to things and I have gotten very good at it.

Great advice. Thanks, Amanda!!!
Karen Marrow´s last blog ..How To Market On Twitter-Top 10 Tips From Jonathan Budd

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:22 pm

Good to hear @Karen! Yep, Jack Canfield is the man! I love the Success Principles!

Bridgette Chase Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:31 pm

Amanda,

What a great article and video! I can completely identify with everything you’ve shared. I’ve always been part of that 20% club, filling in for others and/or doing the majority of the work. I am happy to say that Network Marketing is responsible for my deliverance. Now I can say, “No” with no problem. I’ve learned to protect my time.

Bridgette

Amanda Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 8:23 am

@Bridgette, glad to hear you’ve changed gears!

alexondra Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 11:40 pm

I agree, Amanda…though we may want to make others happy, “people pleasing” will not get us very far with our own happiness. If we neglect our own needs…not only will we be unable to help ourselves, we will be unable to help anyone else! Be good to yourself and know your limits! Besides, you have no control over how people react to your decisions so it’s not even worth sweating!!!

Amanda Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 8:24 am

@alexondra, couldn’t agree more! Thanks for stopping by to comment today!

Rankin Telles Says:
July 9th, 2010 at 2:27 am

Amanda Great post. Isn’t it amazing we grow up hearing the word No so much but when it comes time to say no we don’t say no even though we truly want to say no. I forced myself to say no one day and after the first time it is so much easier.

Lori Robertson Says:
July 12th, 2010 at 5:08 pm

Amanda, I used to have a hard time saying NO but when I realize that by me not doing that is caused more harm than good to myself and and started to care more about myself. If I take care of myself first and I am happy then I can help others much better. Great post!
Lori Robertson´s last blog ..Rejection – How To Never Get Rejected Again

Amanda Reply:
July 15th, 2010 at 11:23 am

@Lori, such a great point! It reminds me of the airline stewardesses who tell you to secure your own oxygen mask before helping anyone else!

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Peter Fuller MBA Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 5:44 pm
I can never say no to a beautiful women

But to everyone else no problem.

For me it comes down to scheduling and prioritizing. I also like to make sure everyone knows what I am doing and why.

So in the example above I would just tell everyone I have a Monday night commitment that is important for my business. If they were interested I would even tell them why I am doing it.
Peter Fuller MBA´s last blog ..Brand yourself online with your own “Nerve” Center

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:05 am
@Peter, glad that isn’t a challenge for you. I think it most comes into play when you are just beginning to establish your home business… then people start to get used to your schedule. Thanks for your input!
Steve Nicholas Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 6:57 pm
I know that, in my experience, I can have difficulty saying no. Sadly, there are times when I can only say it when there is literally no time for me to do anything else. (I think that part of it is liking being the “go-to guy” sometimes.) This is why I have a personal rule that I require 24 hours notification for something unless it really, truly is an emergency.
Steve Nicholas´s last blog ..Investing Like Warren Buffett

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:06 am
@Steve, that is actually a fantastic rule to have. Jack Canfield suggests to make a list of things you “won’t do” in his book The Success Principles… things like you mentioned there, not changing your schedule less that 24 hours in advance.

I appreciate you stopping by!
Wendy Hewlett Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 7:52 pm
The ‘Success Mindset’ is short-term pain for long-term gain. It may be hard to bow out of events that you would rather be attending, but in the long run you will have the time to do the things that you love. Your family, friends and community will understand if you are not always available if you have explained to them why you are not available.

I am learning that you also need to learn to so NO to things within your business. For instance, if you have started a training series, say NO to any other training until you complete the one you have started. You can get caught up on trying to learn several different aspects of the business (like attraction marketing, social media, PPC or whatever) at the same time. Stick to one thing at a time … you will get there.

Great advice as usual Amanda!!

Wendy Hewlett
Wendy Hewlett´s last blog ..Damaging Misconceptions in Network Marketing

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:16 am
@Wendy, great advice from yourself as well! When people can’t say no, they often get themselves into situations where they feel overwhelmed. Your right, this can happen in your personal life but also in your business very easily.

I agree 100% and I always tell my students to focus on one thing at a time in their business.

Thanks for sharing!
Amanda Lee Says:
July 5th, 2010 at 10:50 pm
Thanks Amanda. Always a good thing to be reminded of no matter how many times we hear it. My biggest difficulty is saying no to my two young children wanting my time. The main thing here is that being and feeling like a good mother is one of my main passions and spending time with them as they grow is so important to ME as well as them. So often it is ME not wanting to say no to them – not just for their sakes but also MINE!

Of course it is easier to say no to friends and adult family for dinner or golf etc than it is to say no to a child wanting and actually needing our attention.

It is always a juggle as a Mother but it is good to be reminded that martyrdom is not necessary ……..balance, balance, balance………

cheers, Amanda Lee
Amanda Lee´s last blog ..Law of Attraction- Use it Wisely- Not Selfishly

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 2:50 pm
@Amanda, balance is right! You got it girl!
Jason Linsey Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 9:59 am
Great article & video. This is something I’ve struggled with for many years. It even got me into a lot of trouble @ one place I used to work at, because I couldn’t say, “No” when people asked me to do stuff & consequently my in-tray just piled up so high, I did not have the time to get stuff done. It was a nightmare!

Anyways, I think the difficulty with saying no can sometimes be because we don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings, upset them or end up on the wrong end of their displeasure. Or maybe it’s because we don’t want the other person to think wrong of us. Or perhaps we’re scared that it’ll just end up in an argument if we say, “No” and it’s just easier to say “Yes” or “OK”.

I analysed my fear of the word “No” a short while ago & I’d felt all of those things at different times. After giving it a lot of thought & contemplation I realised that the long term pain to oneself by not saying “No” is a lot greater than the short term “quiet & easy” life that one may think one might get by not saying “No”.

And, like you said Amanda, we don’t have to be rude to say “No” – it’s like my Mom always said when I was a kid, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it that counts.”

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 2:53 pm
@Jason, great points you bring up! I agree when you say the long-term pain caused by not saying “no” is much greater than the short term discomfort.

As Wendy said above, it’s short-term pain for long-term gain.

I appreciate your input!
Rebecca Johnson Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 1:22 pm
Amanda,
Thanks for the reinforcement. Sometimes it feels so selfish and out of balance for me, but I also know that when you are starting your own business it takes time to lay the foundation and build the momentum. I appreciate the validation that it’s ok to say NO! We can trust our intuition to make these decisions about when to say yes and know– it knows what to do!
Rebecca Johnson´s last blog ..You Can Make Cool Videos Like This One To Share Your Message In A Memorable Way

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 2:57 pm
@Rebecca, I know it does feel selfish sometimes but also necessary. Trusting our intuition is so critical to living a fulfilling lifestyle. I appreciate your input!
Chris Bernardo Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
Amanda,

Nice job on the post and video, i know that setting your priorities and planning out day and what you need to do and set that time, I do have to say no from time to time from different friends and networkers that want to do things ranging from Mixers, socializing, conference calls, etc… There is a time for social, but also things that you need to have to get done to grow your business and keep on track…
Chris Bernardo´s last blog ..Does it Stop Marketing at the Beach

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 4:00 pm
@Chris, absolutely! A balance of socializing and moving your business forward are key!
Cheryl Ingebrigtsen Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 3:02 pm
Hey Amanda,
Great message and reminder that its not only ok to say no but also really important. I often burn the candle at both ends and then pay for it later when I feel super tired. Its true though that people will adjust to your new schedule and if they don’t its not about trying to fix it to suit them.
Thanks for sharing
Cheryl Ingebrigtsen´s last blog ..Simple Practical FaceBook Tips

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 4:04 pm
@Cheryl, I’ve been there! Working and keeping commitments straight through til I was exhausted! It’s great to be able to turn down a commitment on occasion for your own mental health!
Spunky Jones Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 5:12 pm
I use to have a problem saying no to people. However, through the years, I have learned to reprogram myself to say no when needed.

That is probably why I am not that fond of being a mentor at times. There are just too many requests made on most mentors because people don’t want to do the work themselves. Having a mentor is one thing, but expecting them to be a nurse maid is another thing.
Spunky Jones´s last blog ..Bloggers- take responsibility for your actions-

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:14 pm
@Spunky, I think mentoring can be done right when you set that expectation from the get go. If you point people in the right direction but don’t “do it for them” it can be done without too much stress on the mentor. Thanks for your input!
Jennifer May Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 5:45 pm
Hi Amanda! This was truly one of the hardest obstacles in my life to overcome. It always has been. My family has always been very demanding of me and it is something that I cannot seem to say no to in most cases. Mainly because I have always done whatever I needed to do to get where I want and need to be (they know this and took advantage of it more than they should). I simply made it so much easier for them to take care of them every time they needed me to because I was always the “Strong One”.

Until recently… About 6 months ago I made the choice to say no. I allowed myself to learn that there is a difference between being walked all over verses helping others. Because my not saying no was interfering so very much in my success, tasks and things I need to do each day to achieve my goals/dreams. I needed to take this step to be able to even get the time to work towards my dreams.

I had to work on this area of my life each day and still do. So that I do not feel guilty when I say no and that it is alright for me to say no. In all honesty I do have my times that I get that heartache that I am terrible for saying no when I am asked to do something for them. But I quickly overcome that! It is not worth beating yourself up about, it is okay to say no!

So getting to the point of my comment… I want to thank you for this reminder. What a great video and you are absolutely right! We must all feel okay with saying no. It is something that will allow more time, room and energy towards our true purpose in life! Thanks Girl!!!
Jennifer May´s last blog ..My Top 20 Reasons WHY NOT To SURRENDER To Life’s Obstacles… But OVERCOME And FACE Them

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:18 pm
@Jenn, your comments are always so heartfelt! I think people’s personalities come into play with how much this decision to “say no” effects them. I also have a difficult time saying no, whereas some people do it easily.

Just tonight, within a one hour time span, I was invited to a baseball game and to go swimming, both of which I had to turn down because of online commitments. My friends and family are starting to understand though which is nice!

I appreciate your input!!
Ryan Yokome Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 6:21 pm
Hey Amanda,

This is such a great post!! Seriously, one of the first lessons I’ve learned it to get great at using the word “no”.

Focus is so key. Awesome video and content. You’re an inspiration because you’ve been killin’ it lately!!

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:19 pm
@Ryan, thanks so much buddy! Yep, “no” is ultimately important! I appreciate you stoppin by!!
Justine Simard Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 6:28 pm
Hi Amanda,

Thanks so much for a great video and message. I can completely relate! With a young family and a home business to juggle, I have had to learn to say no, but also have had to learn to say YES to MYSELF! This is a positive way to see every situation where I have to say no to someone, because in most instance, it is because I must say yes to myself (and can definitely help to eradicate the guilt sometimes felt after saying no to others).

I must say though, I absolutely do love saying yes to OTHERS. And I do whenever I can. While having a strong focus on achieving my goals and dream, and cultivating my mindset for personal and professional success, saying no sometimes becomes a necessity. And in the process, saying yes, whenever possible, can certainly bring massive rewards as well.

Thanks for your inspiration!

Justine
Justine Simard´s last blog ..Are You Like Me Attraction Marketing and Filtering Prospects

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:21 pm
@Justine, I hear you! Saying YES to yourself is something many of us need to do more (and guilt-free)! Thanks for commenting on my blog and I hope to see you back more often!
Karen Marrow Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 6:42 pm
Amanda,

That is one of my favorite books of all time too! You are right, you do have to say no to things and I have gotten very good at it.

Great advice. Thanks, Amanda!!!
Karen Marrow´s last blog ..How To Market On Twitter-Top 10 Tips From Jonathan Budd

Amanda Reply:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:22 pm
Good to hear @Karen! Yep, Jack Canfield is the man! I love the Success Principles!
Bridgette Chase Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 8:31 pm
Amanda,

What a great article and video! I can completely identify with everything you’ve shared. I’ve always been part of that 20% club, filling in for others and/or doing the majority of the work. I am happy to say that Network Marketing is responsible for my deliverance. Now I can say, “No” with no problem. I’ve learned to protect my time.

Bridgette

Amanda Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 8:23 am
@Bridgette, glad to hear you’ve changed gears!
alexondra Says:
July 6th, 2010 at 11:40 pm
I agree, Amanda…though we may want to make others happy, “people pleasing” will not get us very far with our own happiness. If we neglect our own needs…not only will we be unable to help ourselves, we will be unable to help anyone else! Be good to yourself and know your limits! Besides, you have no control over how people react to your decisions so it’s not even worth sweating!!!

Amanda Reply:
July 7th, 2010 at 8:24 am
@alexondra, couldn’t agree more! Thanks for stopping by to comment today!
Rankin Telles Says:
July 9th, 2010 at 2:27 am
Amanda Great post. Isn’t it amazing we grow up hearing the word No so much but when it comes time to say no we don’t say no even though we truly want to say no. I forced myself to say no one day and after the first time it is so much easier.
Lori Robertson Says:
July 12th, 2010 at 5:08 pm
Amanda, I used to have a hard time saying NO but when I realize that by me not doing that is caused more harm than good to myself and and started to care more about myself. If I take care of myself first and I am happy then I can help others much better. Great post!
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Amanda Reply:
July 15th, 2010 at 11:23 am
@Lori, such a great point! It reminds me of the airline stewardesses who tell you to secure your own oxygen mask before helping anyone else!

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